Recently, a drama teacher, William Drury, groomed two of his students so that he could watch them perform sexual acts upon each other in the back of his car. Being taken into custody he has been charged with numerous offences and awaits his verdict at the end of October.

Grooming is an unfortunate sub-sector of paedophilia and, because of the breakdown of family contact throughout the last decades, it is more widespread than previously believed.

Gaining complete trust between the predator and the victim…

Who are you really talking to on the other end of the line?

Like most sexual deviants, predators usually manipulate a child, after using the him or her, will move on to another location to repeat the act. They work near or at places where children are and sometimes even go as far as striking up relationships with adults with access to young children. The majority of victims are those that crave attention, and are usually from dysfunctional homes: not always broken, even those with work-burdened parents is psychologically enough.

The groomers recruit their victims in various ways from rides to school, treats, days out or even a shoulder to cry onto. Gaining complete trust between the predator and the victim so later when the issue of secrecy comes up the victim believes it is a normal thing and does not want to lose their new friend. This secrecy unfortunately comes in hand with threats and guilt: “you can’t tell your mother! It will kill her, and you don’t want her unhappy…”.

Nonsexual touching desensitizes the child.

The forging of an emotional bond through grooming leads to physical contact. Predators use the grooming process to break down a child’s defences and increase the child’s acceptance of touch. The first physical contact between predator and victim is often nonsexual touching designed to identify limits: an “accidental” touch, an arm around the shoulder, a brushing of hair. Nonsexual touching desensitizes the child. It breaks down inhibitions and leads to more overt sexual touching the predator’s ultimate goal.

Sexual predators exist and it’s smart to ask questions of your younger friends and siblings, if they’re acting differently/quiet. At the moment, there is no easily found help centre for those affected by grooming, so if you feel that perhaps something is wrong then the best thing you can do is talk to them.

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  1. Anon

    Firstly, I would like to express how shocked I am that such an article should appear under the section heading, “Current”. It seems that the only part of the article that relates to current affairs is the first paragraph that describes the current criminal situation of William Drury.

    Secondly, I would like to express disappointment and anger at the apparent ignorance with which this article was written. It does in fact, offend.
    The language, terminology and emotive way the article is written, seems to be a not so curious by-product of an apparently “enlightened” age, yet written with as much prejudice and lack of understanding as we could find from political and medical texts regarding “homosexuality” throughout the 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s…need I go on?

    Paedophilia, and I use the word in its medical and criminal sense, is a way of being that is little understood. The terms “sexual deviants”…”predators”…”sexual predators” are highly distasteful and do not recognize or appreciate the lack of knowledge the scientific or moral community has regarding issues involving child centered sexual attraction. It is reminiscent of the way gay women and men would have been referred to, and in some instances are still thought of – note recent articles regarding parents not wanting their children taught by gay male teachers.

    The insensitivity with which such a complex issue is broached is saddening. The first half of the article reads like a “guidebook to spotting your local paedophile”. Over-categorisation is an understatement! I refer here to the rhetoric used to describe said “sexual predators” i.e. “they work near or at places…..”. I am further incensed by your reference to the majority of victims being “those that crave attention”. You cannot doubly position yourself as writer, and your article, to assume the children involved in issues of child centered sexual attraction are innocent and preyed upon, yet simultaneously craving attention. Adult victims and parents of children involved in such instances would, I believe, be incensed!

    The correlation you have made between the “breakdown of family contact” and the apparent widespread prevalence of grooming is unsubstantiated and nonsensical. I would be more than interested to read through the references and sources you have which have made this correlation, nay, cause and effect relationship you seem to have established.

    I cannot stress enough the carefulness and thoroughness with which topics like this should be approached. Child services (in its generic sense) already experience a complex dilemma regarding child safety and the widespread notion that adults who work with children are “guilty until proven innocent” – I make reference here, to the multiple criminal checks adults must go through before they are permitted to work with children. Your notion that rides to school, treats, days out and a shoulder to cry on are the hallmarks of the grooming process construct and contribute to an atmosphere of distrust regarding well-intentioned adults who hope to develop and be part of a child’s success and growth.

    Whilst your article is indeed anti-normative, a stance to be applauded, in its conclusion that these situations and the people involved exist rather than “brushing it under the carpet”, I unfortunately cannot feel anything but offended and disappointed with its sweeping assumptions and blatant diatribe towards a little understood issue, and the people involved.

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